This morning, I woke up in a bedroom next to Chrissie's. I went straight to the nursery where tiny KZ was sleeping. I learned that she passed her hearing test! It was (and is) hard to really start realizing that Kathleen was most probably going to be our little baby. I walked in to visit Chrissie too, and she seemed well. We shared feeding the baby. Afterwhich, the pediatrician came in and gave her a healthy report and stated that she just needed plenty of nutrition.
Then, Chrissie recieved the call i had been so concerned about;our attorney called her- it was about 930am. I left the room; feeling uncomfortable; but she stayed strong. She sounded open and resolved. He apparently told her he was coming over in less than an hour if she felt she was ready. She said she was and legitimately sounded so.
A social worker came in to talk to her and then reported that she was feeling strong in her decision and although recognizing it would be hard; felt it was right. I was so pleased that the hospital provided her with a social worker.
About an hour later, her attorney arrived and asked the nurses' station for a notary; which they provided quickly! He went into her room and shortly came out he asked us to sign, as well. We felt a sense of urgency to go to the court house since we wanted to get the filing done and the judge's docket was clear after 11:30am. It was tough to leave the maternity wing, i wanted to see Chrissie; but it was evidently not a good time to knock on her door.
We made it to the Court house with the Super star Mary Rose!
The filing for custody and requesting the ICPC (permission to leave the state of Kansas) as well as giving our formal statements all took about 1.5 hrs. Our brief statements were all recorded and will be presented on our finalisation Day which will be Sept 17th. Having done our statements then possibly prevents us from having to return to Kansas on the 17th. We shall see.
It was so smooth I think we were all amazed. From the court house, I texted Chrissy a msg, "thinking of you", and she responded, "thank you, you can come in now". When we returned to the hospital, we brought a small gift and i was so overjoyed to see her sitting up looking quite alert and happy to see us. Chrissy and I had a private chat and I think we both felt alot better. Somehow the documents and the legal language really created the feeling of the finality of it all. I understood her completely; having myself just made formal statements in front of the Judge. I was never more happy to know it was going to be an and ever-changing open relationship.
Our main goal tonight is to keep baby Kathleen eating enough- every two hours and we hope to see her weight increase exponetially! ;-)
Hope the pictures are fun for you to see; wish you were here...We may even be able to leave by Friday or Monday!
Love jocelyn
P.S. off to the hospital to stay over tonight again- if all goes well; she will be released tomorrow at 730pm our time!
mary it's so cool that you got to hold the baby.
ReplyDeletethe baby is so cute love ya,
megan
p.s. mom and dad send lots of love to you all !!
Reading this last report brought even more tears of joy to my eyes...what an amazing experience and intense impact on your emotions these days must have...and you both are doing so extremely well! the pictures speak for themselves...
ReplyDeleteCongratulations, you are a family!
Wont be able to check blog for a few days...wish that all continues this beautifully way and you have a safe trip bringing Kathleen Zara to her lovely home! love f
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ReplyDeleteWOW! Thank you so much for including us. Your wedding was such an awesome event and now this! You are two of the most blessed and wonderful people and to add the love of and for this baby is amazing! We can't wait to hold her and love her! You do know that I am a baby stealer, you may not get her back!
ReplyDeleteDanny says Kathleen looks just like him! (you never know given his past - ha ha ha) Seriously - we're sooo excited for the two of you. Kathleen is one lucky girl to have such fun and loving parents!! We can't wait to meet her.
ReplyDeleteLove, Carolyn and Danny
Thank you all for your heartfelt support; we are amazed by the love we feel around us... love jocelyn
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